I know that I have posted some rants about ridiculous moms in the past but I wanted to do a post today about a mom who I actually think is doing the right thing and being one of the most honest moms out there. It was a post on Facebook and I am not friends with this woman but it was shared by one of my friends.
“‘You know I love you very much, but you’re REALLY annoying me today’. Right then a young couple walked by, presumably with no kids because the man uttered, ‘Well that was brutally honest.’ To which I replied with a sickening sweet smile, ‘Well they ARE being brutally annoying.’ And of course a lovely elderly woman strolled by and chimed in, ‘They grow up fast…you’re going to miss this someday.’” I for one think that this woman handled her kids perfectly fine, mostly because it’s her choice on how she parents and also it’s okay to think that your kids are annoying sometimes. It does not mean that you love them any less but it’s also a reality check. Everyone is going to annoy you at some point most likely, including your kids. As much as I love my dad and he loves me, I am sure I annoyed him at least a couple times as a child, did it have an effect on our relationship though? No, not in the slightest. This young couple whether they have kids or not but I’m assuming same as her that they don’t just shouldn’t have commented because while they are entitled to their opinion this woman is probably trying as hard as she can to keep her kids in control, while still doing what she was trying to do at the store on top of probably having either dealt with them all day or at least part of the day. The elderly woman I’m sure meant well but at the same time as this woman later states in her post that she is not going to miss the times when her children were fighting or being “annoying” in a store. Regardless it is still up to this woman and her husband on how she parents. Plain and simple, no one else has a say. I know I am talking about it, but this is my opinion and I’m sure in no way will get back to her nor would it make a difference either way.
She goes on to say, “‘Really? REALLY?’ You think I’m going to miss being tortured by two kids in a grocery store someday? After they fought alllllll morning and had their water guns thrown away because they wouldn’t stop shooting each other in the eyes. Not to mention one was grounded for an hour, and I had to rip them apart not once, but twice prior to the produce aisle because they couldn’t keep their hands off of each other! I promise, I won’t miss THIS part of motherhood.” I feel like so many moms, at least the ones I know would cringe to hear that, but you know what I’m sure there are going to be parts of motherhood that you are not going to miss. There will be some that you will absolutely miss and long for but some are going to pass and you are not going to miss those at all. This mother did nothing wrong (not that my opinion means anything or that she needs my validation in any way) but she simply expressed to her kids how she was feeling. She even prefaced with saying that she still loved them.
The rest of her post goes on to say basically how after the grocery store she left the kids with her husband and went to get her nails done and then went home ready to deal with them again. I think this mother needs a whole bunch of praise and a lot of others should follow her example. However you decide to parent is obviously your and your partners (if you have one) choice but I believe having this type of reality check is an important part of growing up. I know so many mothers who coddle their children and just try to cater to the child’s every whim so that they will stop crying or fighting or whatever they are doing and while again it’s your choice I just think it’s raising an entitled group of children who are going to be in for a rude awakening when they are out on their own. This woman was honest and loving with her children and it was the first time in a long time I agreed and was not infuriated with a “victim” or martyr mom and had to share.
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